OK, this is a tough post to write on several levels.
If you frequent our community, then you know I’ve been really down about a friend’s husband’s death. Just thinking about what she’s going through and everything she will face, I just can’t shake this heartbreaking agony.
In a loving tribute Jennifer (my friend and pictured to the right) has invited bakers & home cooks everywhere to join her in celebrating her husbands life. I’m inviting our community to join in… to show your support and bake beside her so she can muster up the courage to continue with the grace and elegance she has always had. Here’s an excerpt from her latest blog post:
For those asking what they can do to help my healing process, make a peanut butter pie this Friday [August 12] and share it with someone you love. Then hug them like there’s no tomorrow because today is the only guarantee we can count on.
You see, Jennifer Perillo is a food blogger I know and have come to admire. She’s spoken at several of our TECHmunch food blogger conferences over the past year and I simply adore her. She even flew to Vegas last October for less than 24 hours because I asked her to.
Another reason I admire Jennifer is that she makes everything from scratch… in fact, just the other day she had posted on facebook that she made her own almond milk (“all that work for about a half a cup of almond milk”. I joked and said, life was too short… buy the stuff! Little did I realize how much my words would make me shake in my boots hours later.
Jennifer has two beautiful daughters (8 & 3) and on Sunday, Mikey, her husband of 16 years (they met when they were 18), had a massive heart attack. Trying to connect the dots and figure out what happened, I understand that she saw him go down and tried to reach him, but was unable to say goodbye in time. I am confident there wasn’t a day that went by where Mikey didn’t realize how much Jennifer and their girls loved him. On Jennifer’s facebook profile, there’s a photo of the two of them with the caption “my one and only”… heartbreaking.
This is one of my biggest fears, but I didn’t know that until I saw her post on twitter Monday. “He’s gone. My heart is broken in a million pieces.” That tweet sent chills in my spine… I was thinking it was her father or someone older (a person who had lived his life and had the time to love, grow old, be happy)… but was shocked to learn it was her husband, her soul mate, a man in his 30s.. someone like me. The person Jennifer was supposed to grow old with.
Jennifer (although she doesn’t realize it) has shown me that the company you keep truly defines the person you are. Seeing the out pour of support even from people who don’t know her shows you what kind of person she is, was and will always be. I hope that if something like this happened to me, it’s comforting to know that the food community comes together so gracefully to support one of their own. After spending 12 years producing and directing television and moving into the food space, I can now see clearly why it was such a good decision (and not just because of the food). These are the people I admire the most and know have my back.
So Jennifer, this post is for you. You can count on me to make that pie on Friday and you can count on me to be there for you… thank you for being a friend, a true supporter and a good person all the way to the tip of your fingers. Please keep making that almond milk, even if it takes you all day… that’s what makes you so unique.
If you’d like to bake, please head over to Jennifer’s blog where she posts Mikey’s favorite Peanut Butter Pie recipe.
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